If you scored 12 or fewer points it sounds like your relationship is healthy and on the right track! Keep up the good communication and healthy behaviors.
If you scored 13-17 points you may be noticing a couple of unhealthy traits in your relationship. This may not mean there are warning signs, but it’s best to keep your eye on the few things that make you uncomfortable to make sure there aren’t unhealthy patterns developing. The best thing to do is to talk to your partner and let them know what you like and don’t like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always important when building a healthy relationship.
If you scored 18-23 points it sounds like there are warning signs of an abusive relationship present in your relationship. These red flags may develop into much worse patterns as time goes on. It may be a good idea to talk with an advocate at The Alliance to assess the relationship and figure out how to remain safe with your partner.
If you scored 24-30 points or more based on your answers, you may be in an abusive relationship. Your safety is the most important thing, and it may be useful to make a safety plan. You don’t have to do this alone, we’re here to help you. Make an appointment to speak with an advocate here: jpollack@alliancechaffee.org